Getting over an Emotional Hangover

Getting over an emotional hangover []

It’s Monday, it’s about to rain (because if AP Lit taught me anything, pathetic fallacy is REAL), and I’m coming down from what seems like a months-long emotional hangover that really hit its peak the second Tuesday in November.

The months leading up to the 8th of November were like those few blissful hours after you first wake up following a night of drinking. You feel great -too great- because you’re probably still drunk. Confident that you’ve beat the system, you wash your face and maybe even suggest brunch. The day is young! The world is your sober oyster! Maybe you’ll go for a run! Pen the next Great American Novel! Learn how to make a macaron!

And then it hits you, like an orange toupéed pile of bricks, and you’re catapulted into a day (or in this case, months) of feeling like a royal pile of shit. Not even a marathon of Emma Thompson movies can remedy the situation.

I know that for me, the last couple of months were spent trying to internally reconcile what I had previously considered a relatively progressive country with the reality of what was happening in the political sphere. Obviously I am white, educated, straight, and, despite being personally broke, have parents who are not and can help me out if necessary. My position in this country is a privileged one and I know that, but still. As a Semi-American Human who is not, I don’t know, a complete immoral piece of shit I too became increasingly frustrated and embarrassed by the sudden turn of events. With each cabinet member nomination and each tweet, our new reality seemed to depart farther and farther from anything in the realm of social decency and intelligent thought. The last straw was when a man best known for a semi-successful reality TV show called our Lord & Savior Meryl Streep “overrated”. What fresh hell was this?

Last Friday we watched a man thoroughly unfit in to be president sworn into office. Well actually, most of us didn’t, because we had more enjoyable things to attend to like waiting in line at the Post Office or folding our socks. Despite whatever that bizarre attempt at damage control coming out of the White House press room would have you believe. Though you’ve gotta love how the press is now literally fact-checking Trump in their headlines: “He accused [the media] of inaccurately reporting the size of Donald Trump’s inaugural crowds. They didn’t.” (HuffPo)

But then on Saturday, millions from all over the world came together to remind us that hey! maybe the world is still salvageable! and it was like the advil was finally kicking in. You still kind of feel like regret and despair and you vow never to eat 2$ burgers from a sketchy late-night establishment again, but at least you know you’ll probably live to see the morning. It’s a process, but getting over an emotional hangover takes time, self-reflection, and copious amounts of pizza (or if you’re vegan/gluten free/Gwyneth Paltrow… an acai bowl? I don’t know, I’m trying to be topical here).

Like its physical counterpart, there are things to be learnt from your emotional hangover. For one, moving on is important but ignorance is not. You can (and should) think positively and hope for the best in the future, but don’t forget why it happened. This way, the next time we are confronted with a sexually-assaulting Voldemort who thinks he wants to run for an office that gives him the nuclear codes, we are better equipped to ensure that doesn’t happen again.

Also, no matter how hard you try to convince yourself otherwise, you really really really still don’t like gin.


  1. Visit this site to find out who your representative is and get in touch with them. Call them, write to them, send them a letter via carrier pigeon, it’s up to you.
  2. Continue the momentum from the Women’s March! Keep checking to participate in their “10 actions for the first 100 days” campaign.
  3. Donate to any of the many organizations that will need the support under the new administration. Planned Parenthood, ACLU (American Civil Liberties Union), The Trevor Project (supports LGBTQ youth), NAACP. For a bigger list, check out this link.
  4. Climate change is the most important issue affecting every person on the planet right now! Sign the Nature Conservancy pledge to uphold the Paris agreement, and call your senator to oppose the appointment of Scott Pruitt (who has previously sued the EPA as a proponent of the fossil fuel industry) as head of the EPA.
  5. Sign this petition to show your support for Planned Parenthood. It takes two minutes! You can also volunteer.
  6. FUCKING REGISTER TO VOTE seriously, if you could have voted in November but didn’t, then not to be dramatic but this is literally all. your. fault. Register here.



  1. Thanks for sharing how to get involved! I saw a lot of social of the march.

  2. hannahcstark

    Love how you listed how to get involved. Thanks for sharing.

  3. This was really insightful! It’s awesome how you listed ways to get involved – I’ll be doing a few of those things!

  4. Could not agree more. Definitely will be an interesting few years.

    xx, Jamie

  5. Registering to vote is such an easy and simple thing anyone can do to get involved!

    Greta |

  6. Thanks for sharing this! Getting involved in anything you care about is so important.

  7. Girl this is powerful! I love that you put this together, taking action is so important!

  8. Yes. Yes. Yes. I went to the march and it was such an amazing experience. I’m not going to let how upset I am leave me feeling emotionally hungover though. Doing something -like you say- and actually using your voice can make you feel better! I refuse to be powerless. Love this post 🙂 xx

  9. Alexis Reliford

    Such a great post and I love the graphic at the top!

  10. This is such a great post! Emotional hang overs are so real and can be tough to get over.
    Amy | Pastel N Pink

  11. I love that you included how to get involved in your post! I wish that everyone, no matter where they fit on the political spectrum, would get more involved in causes they’re passionate about instead of just trolling social media. Despite all of the horrible stuff that has happened this election season, I’m really thankful for what an eye opener this has been for me to check my privilege.

    Great post, Elly!

    XO, SS || Seersucker Sass

  12. Great post! I’ve been living in denial since election day. So much so that I didn’t even realize it was inauguration time already until the end of that day! And whenever people talk about it, I try to block them out. I just keep thinking, this can’t be real! Getting involved in any of the many causes that will suffer the next 4 years is a great way to fight back. Thanks for the reminder and all the resources!

  13. I disagree that the election results are the fault of those who didn’t vote. Before that upsets you let me share why I think that. Who is to say that those extra votes wouldn’t have gone to He Who Shall Not Be Named? For all we know those extra votes could have caused him to win the popular vote too. I always share “If you don’t vote can you really complain with the outcome?”

    • hey girl, thanks for your thoughtful response! I get where you’re coming from and I’m kind of on the same page; it’s frustrating to see people who didn’t vote because “both candidates were bad” or because they just didn’t want to complain about the current political situation. Or have any sort of opinion on the matter. Yeah, if everyone had voted I’m sure some of those votes would’ve gone to Trump… but at least they were actively participating and making their voice heard. Those who didn’t vote but could have did nothing to potentially affect change in this country, and that’s the point I was trying to get across (albeit in a v snarky way, because I am generally an asshole) xxx Thanks for reading!!!


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